Monday, October 6, 2008

Little Women

I previously posted about Evie being beyond her years. She has a tendency to sound so adult in her cadence, it's at times, annoying. I think the reason that it gets on my nerves so much is because I know, deep down, she is parroting me. She'll casually mention that she has the hiccups, then about one minute later, she'll say: "Mom? Why aren't you getting me peanut butter?" (which my DH has convinced the children is the cure all for hiccups) She questions my abilities constantly and incessantly interrogates intentions. I know she has picked this up from hearing me always ask rhetorical questions in an annoyed tone. If I'm not johnny on the spot for her, I'll hear about it. She is bossy but bright. Very bright.
She reminds us of Gab at her age. Gabby could carry on a conversation with you when she was 18 months old. Not exaggerating here! We often had to remind ourselves how old she actually was. When we think back to that time in our lives, we have many regrets on how harshly we treated her. Her verbal acuity did not match her cognitive ability and so we often expected too much from her. I learned my lesson and so I apply it now to Evie. I slip up sometimes, and feel badly. But I could learn a lesson from Gabby once again. Recently she wrote something in her journal that she shared with me:


You can hear my heart sing out loud, but you can also hear
my soul quiet down. Sometimes they laugh at me cause I make mistakes but it's okay because everybody makes mistakes.




I would like to take the credit for teaching her that it's ok to make mistakes. But my perfectionistic manner cannot claim such lovingkindness. I thank the Lord that somehow, my children are learning forgiveness, somewhere.

3 comments:

bonnie felter said...

sweet, sweet girls you have. your heart is shows through them for sure. charlotte is similar....last night she had real tears over not being able to "hotscot" (her way of saying it) on one foot. true drama....she wants to do everything perfectly. it is a prison, i am sure.

bonnie felter said...

this was the exact conversation in our home an hour ago and it made me think of you and i .... our imperfectness and our love for our girls ... this happened as we lay in bed together.

Me: 'Charlotte, I yelled at you today and I'm sorry. Mom was frustrated.'

Charlotte: 'It's OK Mum, it was an accident.'

Me: 'Yes, it was a mistake. You didn't deserve that though. I'm so sorry, Charl.' (kissing her cheek)

Charlotte ((cross with me)): 'Mom, I said it was an accident! Listen to me and what I'm saying! It's OK!! I forgive you!!!'

Yeah.....she sounded EXACTLY like me. it is frightening.....what monster have a created?! like your evie.....beyond her years!

Lara said...

My Haleah (firstborn) is this way too. Nothing gets past her and she observes everything. We are too hard on her often. I need to remember that she is only barely three. Every day I will strive to be more patient and kind. Girls can be so wonderful and so exasperating at the same time!